Why children don't tell

This was my response to Dave Ross making a direct connection to sexually abused kids and it pointing to something wrong at home, because kids don't go & tell their parents what's going on.

The guy was preying on children at an age that weren't quite aware of sexuality and what that all entails. If you have any knowledge of sexual predator behavior, they are very sly. This guy was typical. Centered himself with kids, parents automatically "trusted" him with their kids because of the U, the program, his fame. Abuse, sexual abuse especially, is often connected with shame. These boys were at an age where either they didn't have a clue about sexuality yet (7/8) or they were JUST entering the age of perhaps, someone might have started to explain (10 years old, just entering that realm). The two eye witness sexual episodes were with 10 year old. The older kids seemed to have more of an idea what he was doing and they did extricate themselves from him and the program. I think he picked this age group because of their non understanding of what that was all about. Kids, from all sorts of homes, keep stuff from their parents. Especially if they feel like they've done something wrong. Sexual abuse victims live with shame their entire lives sometimes and often hide the event(s) for years. Good parents or not, abuse happens.

However Dave, I do agree with you that way too many fathers are abandoning their children & their responsibilities. This program was for at risk kids and probably, several sons of single mothers, who put them in this very prestigious program with well known famous coaches because they recognized their sons needed a male figure - and they probably felt lucky, blessed to have their son there. However it's wrong to make an absolute statement that any child who doesn't come forward doesn't have something solid at home. Look at the Catholic church - how many of those boys hid what was happening and probably had very devout fathers at home.

This story sickens me, not only because of the vileness of what happened, but because what does it do for all the kids out there that do have a need? How does a parent feel safe enough to send their kid to any program, religious, not religious and know their kid is okay? How many years did the church cover up their story? And look how many years this guy was allowed to continue harming & having contact with kids - both situation because of power. Unfortunately as a parent, it strips your ability to trust anyone that might be nice to your kid and as an adult, makes you shy away from volunteering in a program and/or being nice to a kid.

2 BILLION?

What am I missing!?!!!!

Pelosi thinks we need to invest another 2 billion dollars - WE DON'T HAVE - for the cash for clunkers plan?

I don't know about you but my clunkers are paid for. I can't afford a car payment OR a new car. The incentive doesn't work because, well, we like not having debt and we like the fact we can continue living when one of us loses a job. We enjoy being able to feed our children. We enjoy not having a car payment! We enjoy NOT having debt collectors calling asking for a payment, because the economy took a dump and we've lost income, can't pay our bills. I REALLY enjoy not living that life anymore. We also really like being able to work on our own car when it does need repair.

I would think that a lot of people who have cars that are paid for are either financially responsible, managing their money OR are poorerererer.... and can't afford a new car. Green or not.... can't afford it.

And WE, the USA, cannot afford to dump another 2 BILLION dollars - did I say we don't have it? - into this program. Ahhhhh, government.

Oh NO! Not the Mountain Dew!!!

This is for all my Mt. Dew loving, drinking, injecting (not really pa) high school buddies. And, crap. 18 minutes of jogging for one can of soda? You're kidding me! I'd better make it a Mt. Dew then so I can have enough of a high/jolt/rush that I can triple my run.

KIRO: Dave Ross Show

Wednesday, July 29, 2009 @ 9:00am
That soda tax didn't last long

Wednesday's commentary:

I heard this shocking statistic on CNN:

"A can of pop, soda, whatever you want to call it; it takes the average woman 18 minutes to jog off a can of soda."

Which is why, briefly, there was some talk in Congress of a soda tax to raise money to pay for health care reform.

But it was instantly shot down for the usual reasons. Today a soda tax, tomorrow it’s a user fee on Corn Dogs.

How long before Mountain Dew is a felony? What happens when sugar-deprived teens start injecting themselves with smuggled high fructose corn syrup?

The soft drink industry even ran an ad showing a family camping in the woods and enjoying delicious sugary beverages – to point out that if you tax soda, you might as well close the national parks.

Yes, I’m exaggerating.

So the soda tax, once again, is going nowhere, because the right to cheap soda is sacred, but the obesity studies keep coming. Over 26% of adults are now obese, and their health problems cost $147 billion a year, double what it was ten years ago. And as usual it’s worse for African American women, Hispanics, Native Americans, and poor people.

Bringing us to the ultimate argument – as a piece in the Wall Street Journal pointed out, a soda tax would hurt the poor. Because the poor, apparently really enjoy soda.

Well if that that’s the argument, why do we have a food stamp program forcing so much free food on them? Of course they can’t jog; we’re making it so they can’t even move.

The new healthcare plan

If you go to this website, should reach Dori Monson's shows. Go to listen to past shows and choose the 1pm hour for yesterday, 7/21/09. Dr. Betsey McCaughey (Mick-COY) speaks on the current health plan that she has reviewed in full. She is a democrat, a liberal and a patient advocate. She states she cannot support this plan for any patient and very concerned.

http://www.mynorthwest.com/?nid=91


Her points:

Previously discussed citizens would have an option of federal care vs. personal coverage. The plan will force everyone at some point to conform with the "legal requirement" of being on this federal plan.

The plan shuts down the ability to seek specialized care.

Page 425.

Counseling to the elderly every 5 years on ending their lives. Nourishment & antibiotic withholding.


The doctor behind this she says argues that people with disabilities or diseases do not contribute to society.


1000+ pages, how many americans do you think are actually reading this?

Rebecca:

I thought I would pass on to help awareness. It reminds me of Hitler's thinking.

If this is true (and I have more to read on it), I am concerned our president would support it. Anyone making this vote should have read this thoroughly and if they want to support this type of federal mandate which will make a decision whether you, I, our children, our parents - are worthy of living, worthy of receiving health care because it's paid for by the government, they should no longer be in power of America.

Dave Ross Today: Apologies to Willie Nelson

A good chuckle this morning - happy singing!

http://www.mynorthwest.com/?nid=90

South Carolina Gov Mark Sanford publicly declared his Argentine mistress his soul mate yesterday, and ALSO admitted that he (QUOTE) crossed lines with a handful of other women during 20 years of marriage, though he wouldn't specify what lines.

But he does remain an anti-stimulus fiscal conservative, and he will try to save his career. (*) And why not -- as we all know, behind every successful man, there's a good woman, or maybe several.

(SONG)

To all the girls I've crossed lines with before
Who slipped behind my hotel door
I lusted in my heart and a couple other parts
But then that's what hotels are for.

To all the girls who shared my life,
While they were someone else's wife.
Good Christian that I am,
I pray for all your men
And ask that they please spare my life

And as for all the sins I hid
At least it's not like Clinton did
My Argentenian guitars
Are nothing close to his cigars.

To all the girls who shared their souls with me
You're all the stimulus I need
No matter what the critics say,
at least it wasn't gay
Because tradition means that much to me.

KIRO: Must Enjoy Long Walks On Argentinian Beaches

I listened to the confession live yesterday. Sickened. Disheartened. Disheartened that I continue to have faith in these people. And yet, my profile says - I dislike politicians. I dislike dishonest people. Well it's not a wonder why over the past few weeks. I didn't get time to publish my blog I was working on and this is from KIRO FM, Dave Ross and I like his points. My favorite word over the years in the midst of stupidity - look of shock on my face, eyes blank - Unbelievable.



http://www.mynorthwest.com/?nid=90 - Dave Ross

Now THAT was a press conference from the Twilight zone.

I realize I should have more sympathy for Governor Mark Sanford, just as I probably should have had more sympathy for Senator John Ensign, and even Newt Gingrich, but I don't.

Merely entering public life demands a huge sacrifice from your family. To then COMPOUND that by betraying your wife requires a level of narcissism that you'd think even a politician would be incapable of.

But beyond that - for a governor to DISAPPEAR for four days in order to nurse his angst? And lie about it? Too bad he wasn't under oath.

And during his press conference he felt compelled to tell the story of the affair - how it began innocently, how it was such a special friendship, how in fact he was trying to get her to reconcile with her husband… PLEASE!

You're the governor of a state in a country on the verge of DEPRESSION! How do you justify devoting even a second of your life to relationship counseling?

I'm beginning to think that all this Glenn Beck teary-eyed flag-waving populism has attracted far too many emotionally overwrought personalities to public office.

Obviously politicians are human, and humans stray, but if a politician is going to cheat, he ought to do it with enough skill that the rest of us don't end up having to watch. That was Clinton's problem too. The difference between Sanford and Clinton is that Sanford is trying to tell us his relationship was genuine and beautiful--, albeit ultimately tragic. At least Clinton knew full well he was just another Bubba.

Rebecca's Response

Someone emailed me today this EXCELLENT point to remember:

"...remember that the founders of this country came here seeking freedom of religion--the right to worship as they saw fit…and not be persecuted or judged. Yes, most of them were Christians, so it’s correct in saying we were founded on Christian principles. I think they were very careful NOT to write Christianity into the Constitution…and they believed that each person should have the freedom to worship according to their beliefs."

Now for my response - I know I've thrown a lot on here in 2 days. But that's blogging and I've been behind. Someone emailed me and said it sounds like I think Christianity is the only way, only Christians have morals. First, they weren't my responses. I was publishing responses to the Treaty of Tripoli info posted.

Whether Christianity is the only way, is something every person has to determine themselves. I certainly do not think only Christians have morals. All humans fall short in some matter and probably all humans lack morality in some aspect of their lives, regardless of how much they choose to excuse it away. So here are some thoughts I have on this nation and it's "Christianity".

I've noticed, as I'm sure many have, over the years a general movement away and a growing intolerance within our country of Christian principles or the freedom to simply express the belief in Christianity. To the point that some religious persecution is happening and I think coming in our future to this country. This is why it gets my interest to hear the president say we are not a christian nation any longer and I am concerned that he attempts to speak for this nation regarding that matter and as to what the future will hold for Christian views. It seems as human nature, our politics and stance on things is either WAY left or WAY right, not really meeting in the middle so tolerance for one view, means obliteration for the other.

Maybe the Treaty of Tripoli was signed as stated, in order to induce their nation in to peace and not continue to hurt US people, maybe OBama's words were meant as such as well. To induce peace with a nation, who's religion seeks to destroy those with opposing religions. As I type this, the thought occurs to me how interesting it is that OBama is in the middle of a world meeting, a political meeting and sees fit to discount our Christian principles as a nation, in order to bring peace and hopefully end further attacks on US citizens. It seems to boil around religious beliefs. Yet, we must discount ours to induce their favor. Seems a bit two sided and begs attention to what is being given away for the rights or consideration of another country. This is the US and I think we are giving away who we are in many areas, which in turn is giving power to other countries to dictate what and who we are.

Dori Monson recently talked about the fact that an American can't smile in a drivers license photo yet, Muslim women are able to sue and win in the states to keep their faces covererd in their photos. This had nothing to do with being Muslim or anything against any particular race of people. It was about the fact that the Drivers License and it's photo is something we do here in America for identification purposes. Should someone choose to live in this fine country, they should be ready to abide by our laws. Instead we seem to be expected to change the way we live in our own country to accommodate those from around the world that choose to come here. Many listeners called in who had lived abroad and talked about how proud citizens are in other countries, flags are flown, pride is lived and the country is not trumped within by outsiders. Yet, in a large move for tolerance and acceptance of everyone, America is losing who it is as a Nation. When the right to put up your American Flag is removed because the flag is offensive to another person, living on our soil, it's gone too far. When a government official shows up outside someone's personal residence and starts interrogating them about what they are doing in their own home, because it is of a Christian gathering where the words Amen, Hallelujah and praise songs are used - something has gone too far. We need to wake up in light of these small movements against tolerance for Christian principles AND who our nation is. Maybe we need to go back to the beginning and remember where we began. I think this interest in whether we began as a "Christian" nation or not is part of that fighting back and attempt to keep our country American and against the movement to uphold the rights of everything - but Christianity.

I heard this interesting song the other day - something about how things in life don't happen overnight. It happens slowly. A marriage doesn't end overnight, a father doesn't leave his children overnight, etc. Things happen over time to slowly erode something that was strong. I see that happening to our great nation and many things are happening across America we don't even realize. When someone can bring them all together in one place for the big picture, well "overnight" is happening and we need to pay attention.

And no I do not believe in any way only Christians have morals or values. But I do believe there is a need to stand up & pay attention to where this is headed and fight for our rights to live with those values. It chills my blood when I listen to the DVD "expelled" and hear a scientist say that what he hopes is people will rely on science more to achieve his goal, which is to ultimately push "religion" where it belongs, a nice thing for the weekend and at some point, humanity will no longer feel the need to rely on religion or God. For me it's not about doctrine, I believe God is too many times forced & pushed in to the same category as "religion" and they are two very different things. I know God exists by my own life experiences and believe there is a danger of forgetting who we are in this universe, what humanity means and the importance of human life.